Flirtology lecture with Jean Smith

The Malaysian Engineering Society – Kuala Lumpur  


(Anywhere from a 30 min talk to a one-day workshop)

Much of working lives involves interacting with other people. It might involve collaborating on a specific project, negotiating, sitting next to someone for a long period of time or attending an event where you meet others briefly.

In all of these situations we could gain further benefits, if we have the skills to draw these rewards out. Whether it’s strengthening pre-existing relationships by using self-disclosure or making new contacts easily by understanding the anatomy of a good opening question. There is much to be gained by mastering interaction skills. You will learn how to easily build rapport to help develop better relationships in your life – both professionally and socially.

Consists of practical tips and activities on:

    • Improving existing relationships with colleagues
    • Developing rapport with new contacts more quickly
    • Feeling more at ease in social situations
    • Feeling confident knowing what to say in interactions
    • Reading and interpreting body language signals in an interaction
    • Knowing how to ask a good opening  question



(2-hour interactive talk or half-day workshop)

When an issue is bothering us, the thought of addressing it can be scary. We assume the worst will happen. Therefore, rather than talking to the person about how we feel and how to seek a resolution, the problem perpetuates. Resentment can build. Meanwhile, others might be blissfully unaware that there is an issue to resolve.

What stops us from saying: ‘Jon, you probably don’t even realise you are doing this, but do you know that you continually interrupt me when we are in meetings? It makes me feel like you don’t value what I am saying.’ Or telling our parents: ‘I love it when you come to visit, just not for two weeks’. You’ll discover how to assert your needs, get what you want and still walk away amicably. If you are interested in unlocking your freedom to say what you need, then this talk is for you.

Consists of practical tips and activities on:

  • The two fundamental things you need to do in order to assert yourself: communication and boundaries
  • Exposing the unhelpful formula that prevents you from having difficult interactions
  • The 5 practical steps on how to have that awkward conversation
  • Learning the tools which lead to self-confidence

Stylist Magazine Reader Event –London

Flirtology lecture with Jean Smith

The Wedge – Singapore 


(Anywhere from a 30 min talk to a one-day workshop)

Let’s be honest: we all hate networking. It can incite anxiety and we often find ourselves doing our best to circulate a room once and then make a swift exit. Fear of rejection, and feelings of awkwardness and uncertainty, are all valid reasons that can prevent us from making connections.

And while we’re being honest, you already know that networking is an essential skill when it comes to doing business, meeting a new romantic partner, and fostering personal and professional relationships.

Social and cultural anthropologist Jean Smith will teach you the subtle – yet powerful – nuances that will make you a master of networking, without losing sight of who you are and what you stand for. She will show you essential techniques for making your next social event painless, useful and even fun. She will also take you through the five steps you can employ to make socialising easy, no matter the event.

Whether you need to do it with industry professionals or you want to learn how to present yourself at a wedding at which you only know the bride, this practical masterclass will equip you with the necessary skills to turn awkward experiences into long-term relationships.

Consists of practical tips and activities on:

  • How to maximise your time at events, whether you’re there for half an hour or all day
  • Why mindset is key
  • The first thing to do upon entering an event
  • How to approach individuals and groups
  • The perfect opener
  • Moving on from small talk
  • The anatomy of a good question
  • Reading body language as a success monitor
  • Building rapport
  • The graceful exit


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